Emotional Intelligence
In everyday life how to balance feelings and emotions to improve the behavior of others.
Human beings we have a powerful knowledge: that of our emotions. They teach us that many of the common problems can be solved by feeling rather than thinking.
When someone knows something because he says his “heart”, has an unshakable conviction, however, when something enters the “head”, always has a margin of doubt (though it is scientifically proven). Through the development of Emotional Intelligence, you can positively channel our emotions in order to promote optimal performance on any task, both in sport, work and study in relations with our children, with friends and with our partner .
Living more consciously
As he grew to love our actions will be more aware, and therefore, we will be happy to do our part.
When someone hurts us, whether intentional or accidental, possibly assume responsibility or justify their actions. Why we do this? Just because it is a human need “to be right.” This justification is what constitutes a reason for action and is most often expressed as a criticism of who originally was wrong. It is a child’s viewpoint opposite to the point of view responsible adult.
However, our objective in Emotional Intelligence is to accept the point of view different from the others: although we do not agree us give the right to have it. There is a place in the universe for all points of view.
In the hot seat criticized
Criticism and gossip are often a projection of suppressed guilt or shame. Very often it happens that we get a criticism and that this is not entirely accurate, but is too general. This happens, because everyone looks at things from his own obsession.
Still, critics always cause compulsive behavior reflective, leading to the following questions: Can this criticism to be true? Can I generate some kind of insecurity or fear? Can remove some painful experience of the past that have similarities with present situations?
Without further reflection on this, we can say that criticism, whether justified or not, moves us and we always leave some teaching.
The heart and mind work together to do things effectively.
Until people become fully aware spiritual and emotional level, we may feel atraíaos the conditions that seem familiar, even if they are harmful. The key is to recognize the actions in life gives us to determine our feelings hidden and erroneous beliefs.
Whenever we value and grow in love, we can enjoy a full life with a positive attitude towards others you and those around us will restore all the positive energy that radiates. However, how we act when others projected negative feelings in us or criticize us without justification. Analyzing this, we evaluate our “always positive attitude” against others.
Emotional Intelligence and how to accept other points of view
Let us note that relations deteriorated when communication breaks down, when you hold the views for fear of what others say. This is frustrating, and the charge is accumulated and repressed, but still there in our hearts.
You need to understand that only honest communication can restore the relationship we had.
Again we feel an obligation to help those who need to be “healed.” This is a belief that needs clarity (both sides), as it leads to a corresponding relationship and this is not good for either party.
EXERCISE “PRO ACTIVE” WHAT TO TAKE STANCE AGAINST A CRITIQUE?
There is desirable to identify with the critics, or rather who, although they criticize us accept it and take it as an opportunity for change and growth, “however, it is necessary to pose the following questions …
A) How do you feel emotionally that we are doing a review?
B) What are your actions, thoughts and feelings?
You need to understand that only honest communication can restore the relationship we had. Again we feel an obligation to help those who need to be “healed.” This is a belief that needs clarity (both sides), as it leads to a corresponding relationship and this is not good for either party.
C) Also, what is the right thing to say or do in response to criticism?
IN CONCLUSION … No one carries “projections” (guilt, shame, etc.) outside as their own. This is the only way to feel relaxed and to handle the situation from the point of view of love and compassion, which is not the same as being soft or irrational